Reclaim & thrive - Narcissistic Abuse & Toxic Relationship

Discover & dissolve the hidden relational & attachment imprints shaping your love life.

Your first step in recovery is shining a compassionate light on the unconscious patterns that have shaped your relationships. 

Together we’ll identify the hidden blueprints, family wounds, and shadow imprints that made toxic love feel magnetic.

Attachment Blueprints & Relational Imprints

• Explore & identify your attachment style (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganised).
• How attachment imprints shape attraction, bonding, and emotional safety.
•  Somatic Attachment Reprogramming: rewiring your nervous system for secure connection.

Cultural & Familial Conditioning

• Unpacking cultural conditioning systems & attachment narratives that  romanticise suffering, sacrifice, or chaos as “love.”
• Heal the Mother & Father wound at the root of insecure attachment.
• Release ancestral & generational trauma cycles sustaining trauma- bond cycles & unhealthy relationship choices.

Who Narcissists Target — & Why

• Narcissist + Codependent: endless cycles of giving vs. taking.
• Narcissist + Empath: emotional depth exploited as supply.
• Narcissist + Dark Empath: magnetism between shadow & manipulation.
• Narcissist + Narcissist: chaos locked in competition.
• Step out of self-blame and into clarity by understanding how narcissists prey on both vulnerability and suppressed power.

Why do toxic relationships feel so addictive? Understanding the science behind chaos as “chemistry.”

When toxic love feels addictive, it’s not weakness — it’s neurobiology. In this module, we decode the science of trauma bonds, so you can stop mistaking chaos for chemistry and start craving calm, clarity, and conscious 

The Toxic Relationship Dance: Codependency, Empathy & Narcissism: how over-giving, over-feeling, and over-controlling entangle into toxic attraction.

• Why unhealthy bonds feel magnetic, not logical — and how your nervous system mistakes chaos for connection.
• The power imbalance decoded: why narcissists feed on supply and why empaths + codependents feel compelled to fix.

The Neuro-chemical Loop of Trauma Bonds

• Decode the brain-body cocktail of cortisol, dopamine, & oxytocin that wires chaos as love, sustaining trauma-bonded dynamics.
• Learn how intermittent reinforcement (hot–cold, push–pull) creates an addictive “high-low” cycle that keeps you hooked.

Trauma Responses in Relationships• Map your unique survival response: fight, flight, freeze, fawn — and how each one unconsciously sustains toxic dynamics.

• Learn to track trauma responses in real-time with body scans + breathwork.
• Alchemise survival states into embodied boundaries, discernment, and personal power so that your body no longer confuses danger with devotion.

Manipulation thrives on distortion — twisting truth into doubt, gaslighting your memory, and keeping you hooked in cycles of guilt, shame, or false hope.

Where once you felt destabilised by hot–cold dynamics or trapped in endless “what ifs,” here you reclaim the power of nervous system clarity and cognitive precision.

1. The Many Masks of Narcissism
   • Grandiose: Overtly entitled, status-driven, inflated ego.
   • Covert: Hidden superiority masked as victimhood, martyrdom, or quiet manipulation.
   • Malignant: Sadistic, aggressive, thrives on humiliation.
   • Machiavellian: Strategic, calculating, emotionally detached.
   • Communal: Hides behind “good deeds” to manipulate.
   • Somatic vs Cerebral: body/appearance vs intellect/superiority.
2. The Narcissistic Relationship Cycle
   • Love-bombing, idealisation, devaluation, discard.
   • Projection, hoovering, gaslighting, breadcrumbing, triangulation, DARVO, ghosting.
   • Debunking Disney fairytales & romance myths that distort love.
3. Red Flag vs Green Flag Embodiment
   • Cultivating your red-flag radar.
   • Defining non-negotiables & deal-breakers.
   • Anchoring embodied discernment in the nervous system

Healing Outcome of Module One:

You’ll leave this module with the clarity to name your patterns, the compassion to meet your shadow without shame, and the tools to dissolve unconscious imprints. This is the foundation for breaking the spell of toxic love and stepping into your Sacred Reset.  

 Gain clarity around why they’ve been pulled into toxic dynamics, begin to dissolve unconscious imprints, and reclaim lost aspects of self through shadow integration.

Shadow Work Integration

• Mirror Journaling: daily prompts to uncover projections (e.g. “What triggers me most in others?” → “Where does this live in me?”).
• Parts Dialogue: guided practice where clients “interview” disowned inner parts (the pleaser, the  controller, the abandoned child).
• Ecstatic Dance: somatic movement ritual using music to embody “light” and “dark” archetypes, integrating rejected parts into wholeness.

2. CBT-Based Healing Practices

• Thought Reframe Ritual: identify distorted beliefs (“I am unlovable unless I give everything”) → reframe into empowering truths.
• Core Belief Map worksheet to trace recurring thoughts back to childhood imprints, offering new conscious scripts.
• Reality Testing Protocol: simple steps to challenge assumptions (e.g., “If he doesn’t text back, it means he’s rejecting me”).

3. Ancestral & Familial Healing

• Mother/Father Wound Meditation: guided somatic visualisation releasing inherited attachment pain.
• Lineage Release Ritual: journaling + symbolic act (burning paper, water release) to dissolve ancestral patterns of chaos.

Healing Outcome of Module Two:

You’ll leave this module free from self-blame, with the clarity to name the addictive loop, the tools to interrupt it, and the somatic safety to choose devotion over danger.

CBT Reframes for “Chemistry”

• Chaos vs. Chemistry Map: reframe journal where clients list patterns they once called “chemistry” and decode the chaos beneath.
• Attraction Audit: guided worksheet to separate healthy attraction markers (safety, reciprocity) from trauma-driven ones (hot-cold, intensity).

2. DBT Distress Tolerance & Emotional Regulation

• Urge Surfing: practice noticing the impulse to contact/re-engage and ride it out with grounding tools.
• STOP Skill: pause → breathe → observe → proceed with intention (instead of reacting from panic).
• Self-Soothing Box: creating a tangible sensory kit (candles, textures, scents) to regulate nervous system cravings for chaos.

3. Somatic Reset Practices

• Nervous System Detox Breath: alternating nostril breathwork to rebalance sympathetic/parasympathetic activation.
• Body Scan for Craving States: track where in the body “pull to the toxic person” lives, soften it with breath and touch.
• Movement Medicine: shaking, stretching, or intuitive dance to release addictive charge.

4. Shadow Work for Trauma Bonds

• Inner Dialogue with the Craver: dialogue with the “part” that longs for the toxic person, validating its need while setting limits.
• Intensity vs. Intimacy Prompt: journaling on past relationships: “What I mistook for intimacy was actually…“.

Through Shadow Work Integration, CBT reframing, DBT interpersonal effectiveness, and somatic mind–body anchoring practices, this module illuminates the shadow games of toxic relating.

You’ll learn to identify the invisible strings of manipulation tactics - gaslighting, DARVO, guilt-tripping, ghosting, silent treatment, betrayal minimisation — and cut them with discernment rather, than self-doubt.

Here, you break the trance of confusion and reclaim clarity as your sacred shield; restoring your ability to discern truth from manipulation, helps you rebuild internal safety through embodied boundaries, and activates your sovereign capacity for conscious relational choice.

This toolbox restores:

• Your ability to discern truth from distortion, no longer mistaking manipulation for love.
• Your capacity to rebuild internal safety through embodied boundaries and nervous system regulation.
• Your sovereign power to make conscious relational choices — rooted not in fear or fantasy, but in self-trust and embodied clarity.

Somatic Boundary Work Practices

Rewire your nervous system to recognise safety, express “no” with strength, and embody “yes” with full presence.

• Body Compass Meditation:  Attune to visceral signals in your gut, chest, and breath that reveal your authentic yes/no before words are spoken.
• Energetic Shielding Ritual — daily breath + visualisation practice of protective light encircling your body, anchoring you before contact with destabilising or manipulative individuals.
• Boundary Movement Practice — reclaim the body’s wisdom: arms wide, chest open for a sacred “yes”; hands extended, spine tall, feet grounded for a sovereign “no.”

DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness Tools

Anchor clarity in language, dismantle guilt, and practice sovereign communication.

• DEAR MAN Scripts — step-by-step structure for asserting needs without apology, collapse, or over-explaining.
• FAST Protocol — boundaries rooted in self-respect: Fair, Apologies limited, Stick to values, Truthful.
• Boundary Rehearsals — guided role-play and journaling to script responses to manipulation tactics, ensuring your “no” lands with quiet confidence.

Discernment Training & Cognitive Reset

Sharpen your mind, unmask manipulation, and cultivate relational clarity.

• Spotting Red Flags Exercise — decode toxic tactics like love-bombing, DARVO, triangulation, guilt-tripping, and silent treatment.
• Green Flag Journal — track experiences of safety, reciprocity, and respect, and map how they feel somatically in your body (warmth, calm, openness).
• CBT Thought Reframe Ritual — turn confusion into clarity by restructuring distorted beliefs (“Maybe it’s my fault” → “Gaslighting is manipulation, not truth”).