The Conscious Love Reset

Before we can transform our relationships, we must first understand what shaped us.

This opening module gently recalibrates your attachment patterns; you’ll explore, identify & decode how your core attachment needs shape your construct of attraction, bonding, love & emotional safety & how this manifests in your relationships - with yourself & others.

You׳ll explore: 

• Attachment Pattern Mapping: Identify & understand your core relational attachment style -   Anxious, Avoidant & Disorganised dynamics vs Secure Attachment. 

• Relationship Pattern Decoding: Navigate how your relational imprint & attachment patterns manifests in love, family, friendships, sex, & even career dynamics.

• Core Emotional Wound Origins: Explore how parental, ancestral, cultural & religious wounding has shaped your capacity for trust, intimacy & safety. 

• Inherited Trauma Release: Begin releasing intergenerational & ancestral imprints that unconsciously fuel insecure attachment dynamics, sustaining relational chaos & self-abandonment.   

Your earliest experiences of love wrote the blueprint for how you now relate to- often long before you had the words to express & explain them.

This module guides you to rewire childhood emotional wounds & inherited relational dynamics that taught you love had to be earned through silence, sacrifice or perfection.  

Whether you were enmeshed in emotional roles you should never have been responsible for, raised in homes with hyper-control or emotional neglect, or shaped by lineages of martyrdom, guilt, or suppression - this is where you begin to break the spell by healing patterns for those, after you .

You‘ll explore: 

• Nourish emotional & energetic wounding rooted in guilt, shame, abandonment & invisibility that arose from being over-parented, under-attuned or emotionally responsible too young.

• Repair emotional ruptures from enmeshmenr & helicopter parenting - so you stop confusing love with performance, self-sacrifice, or hyper-vigilance.
  Re-parent yourself with attunement, compassionate voice & validation - becoming the secure presence your younger self never had.

Releasing Inherited Burdens & Family Loyalty Contracts

• Gently unravel unconscious emotional contracts that keep you stuck in cycles of self-denial, relational martyrdom, or emotional caretaking.

• Explore ancestral wounds of silence, survival-based love, emotional repression, & identity suppression - & offer them back to the lineage with compassion.

• Free yourself from generational patterns that taught you your role was to fix please, or protect others at the cost of your own truth.

Breaking Inter-Generational Cycles of Relational Trauma:

• Heal family, cultural & religious programming around boundaries, gender, pleasure & worthiness. 

• Release identities rooted in generational survival (e.g. the over-giver, the fixer, the invisible one, the hyper independent).

• Shift from inherited loyal to embodied authenticity - learning that love doesn’t require the abandonment of self.  

Cultural & Religious Healing Around Love, Shame & Control

• Identify & unravel the imprints of patriarchal, purity-based or fear driven narratives around sexuality, pleasure, obedience & emotional expression.
• Reclaim your divine right to feel, express, & love freely - without guilt, fear or spirituality shame.

Voice Activation & Emotional Expression 

• Reclaim your right to honesty, authenticity, boundaries, pleasure & joy - not as rebellion but as personal ownership.

• Confidently articulate your needs, asset your desires & honour your inner child’s truth with clarity & conviction.

• Learn to set loving boundaries with your family, parents & partners - even if they never modelled them for you.  

Somatic & Nervous System Integration

• Through guided somatic practices, movement, creative visualisation techniques & nourishing breathwork practices you’ll reconnect to your body‘s safety signals & release stored emotions from childhood & ancestral trauma.

• Restore wholeness where you’ve fragmented - & come home to the child within who no longer has to perform, protect, or please to be loved. 

Safety is the foundation for intimacy & your nervous system is the gatekeeper.

This module supports you in recalibrating nervous system wellbeing to crave aligned. attuned, peaceful calm, trustworthy & reciprocal relationships; integrating your inner world so that connection feels nourishing & no longer chaotic, threatening or overwhelming.

You‘ll explore:

• Mapping & Decoding Protective Survival Responses: Fight, flight, Freeze, Fawn, Submit & Fragment.

• Identify & map nervous system states resulting in overload: emotional triggers, flashbacks, hyper-vigilance & dissociation.

• Break the neuro-chemical loop fuelling trauma-bonded intermittent reinforcement: Understand why your nervous system mistakes chaos for chemistry.  
  
• Break the cycle from turbulent, roller-coaster, push-pull relational dynamics manifesting in cycles of pursuit, withdrawal & discard & resulting in chaos & confusion.  You’ll transform magnetised, trauma-bonded attraction & chemistry into soul-aligned love where love feels conscious & nourishing, facilitating thriving relationships. 

• Nourishing Somatic healing guidance, tools & techniques:  Enhance your capacity for calm, trustworthy, emotionally safe love with grounding self-regulation & co-regulation trauma healing & connection building techniques 

Attraction without conscious awareness & intention keeps us trapped in familiar cycles of emotional pain.  

This module supports you in untangling roller-coaster style relationships, trauma-bonded chemistry from aligned compatibility- & recalibrating your nervous system to crave peace over chaos, not confusion disguised as passion.

In a world where likes & attention are mistaken for intimacy & virtual attention replaces embodied connection, this module guides you in to creating conscious & intentional relational choices, so that you can thrive in navigating secure dating & love. 

 You’ll explore how digital dating culture can distort relational clarity when intention isn't consciously communicated, helping you reclaim discernment as a sacred, relational skill.

You‘ll explore:

• Intentional & Conscious Relationship Detection: Recognise relational red flags & unconscious manipulation tactics, no matter what your relationship structure or design is.  You’ll learn to decode the valuation-devaluation-discard cycle that typically underpins trauma-bonded relationships & insecure attachment dynamics. 

• Embodying green flag energy: shift from performative dating & anxious self-abandonment to embodying relational congruence: emotional maturity, presence, truth, integrity & reciprocity.  You’ll become a mirror for the kind of love that you desire that’s rooted in mindful, Conscious Intention.

• Discern Chemistry vs Compatibility: Learn to distinguish trauma-bonded activation from conscious, secure & mutually nourishing compatibility.  You’ll Rewire your attachment system so that safety, calm, & consistency feel intoxicating instead of boring.

• Break the Cycle from Trauma Bonded Loyalty: Release the compulsion to heal through others.  Stop outsourcing our self-worth to unavailable partners.  Unhook from anxious over-functioning & the fantasy of ‘proving’ your love-ability.

• Activate Soul-Led Discernment: Shift the internal question from ‘will they choose me?’ ➡️’Does this relationship honour my values, pace & nervous system?’.

• Design Your Conscious Partnership Blueprint: Name & Claim the kind of relationship your soul actually desires - one grounded in co-regulation, communication, growth & pleasure.  Whether monogamous,  non-monogamous, queer, or unconventional - your relational template will be intentional.

Modern Dating & Fantasy Detox

You‘ll explore:

• Fantasy Projection & False Intimacy: Recognise how trauma bonding & idealisation play out through digital screens - & why emotional intimacy built online typically does not reflect real-world resonance.

• Digital Dopamine Loops: Understand how breadcrumb communication & social media validation mimic trauma-bonded highs, keeping you hooked on inconsistent attention.

• AI & Altered Identity: Explore how digital filters, curated personas & fantasy avatars distort reality through deception & disappointment in reality.

• Conscious Dating in the Digital Age: Learn to date from embodied alignment & not from ego loops.  

• Sacred Tech Boundaries: Learn to energetically protect your emotional bandwidth from ghosting, DM baiting & online overexposure.  Unhook your self-worth from someone’s reply speed.

• Fantasy detox: Release the compulsion to perform, seduce or prove yourself through uploading posts & stories.

• Distinguish Trauma Bonded relational dynamics from conscious, sovereign & mutually aligned relationships: You’ll learn how to rewire your nervous system & attachment dynamics so that your attraction toward calm, safety, & reciprocity becomes your foundational blueprint.  

• Break the Cycle of Trauma-Bonded Loyalty: Release the compulsion to “heal” through relationships. Stop outsourcing your worth to emotionally unavailable partners.

• Activate Soul-Led Discernment: Shift your internal question from “Will they choose me?” ➡️ “Do they honour my values, pace, and nervous system”?

• Design Your Partnership Blueprint: Re-pattern the type of love you desire to manifest. Explore what it means to be in a conscious partnership — where devotion, communication, sensuality, & mutual growth are non-negotiable, no matter what your relationship design looks like. 

Sexual trauma has the capacity to reshape how we experience safety,  desire, give & receive love, set & communicate boundaries, access pleasure & can manifest on our core identity & experience of being seen, impacting on how we experience relationships & intimacy. 

 Sexual trauma can make sex & intimacy feel performative, something that needs seeking for validation purposes, or can fuel patterns of sexual & intimacy avoidance.

You’ll explore & embody:

Trauma-Informed Erotic Mapping

• Identify stored trauma in your erotic body through somatic cues:  bracing, freeze, shutdown, dissociation or overdrive.

• Decode your erotic identity distortions: Was your sexuality shaped by control, shame, performance or survival?

• Explore how trauma has the capacity to alter erotic identity, boundaries & arousal.

Nervous System Safety for Erotic Reclamation

• Create a Pleasure activating & trauma-informed foundation for safe arousal & Orgasm: Explore nourishing erotic rituals such as slow pacing, consent-based touch, safety-first arousal.

• Rewire your arousal template: Explore somatic techniques for enhancing your capacity for orgasm while nourishing a safe-mind gentle vagal toning techniques involving erotically empowering breathwork techniques, self & partner-led touch rituals, & consent-based body dialogue Rituals.

• Embodied Sexual Presence: Transform anxiety & triggers around sexual intimacy into grounded erotic presence rooted in body-led & emotionally safe, anchored connection.  You’ll receive solutions for preventing anxious thought loops, or dissociative processes involving spectating, or zoning out, during sex & intimacy 

Healing Sexual Polarisations

• Understand the link between sexual trauma & the capacity it has on creating extreme sexual extremes & patterns: manifesting in sexually compulsive tendencies -    hyper-sexuality, or hypo-sexuality which involves sexually avoidant dynamics.

• Hyper-sexuality: Explore how sexual trauma might drive compulsive sexual behaviours involving validation, control, or emotional regulation.

• Hypo-Sexuality: Understand protective shutdown, sexual & intimacy avoidance & dissociatIve processes that numbs & disconnects you from intimate connection, accessing sexual desire, restricts your capacity for pleasure & orgasm.

• Cultivate compassionate neutrality - releasing shame from both ends of the erotic spectrum.

Sacred Self-Touch & Somatic Pleasure Rituals

• Develop somatic literacy for pleasure: tune in to sensation, breath, sound, movement & emotion.

• Explore nourishing, guided self-touch, pleasure enhancing rituals:  Connecting with your pleasure & amplifying your capacity for orgasm starts with understanding, knowing & identifying your authentic erotic desires, turn on-‘s & turn off’s! 

• Somatic Boundary Body Mapping:  Energetic: Create an internal consent field to energetically establish your  sexual boundaries.  You’ll intuitively detect what you desire - your   ‘yes‘, what doesn’t perhaps align with you in the present moment but perhaps you’d be erotically open during a different time - or your ‘maybe’  & simply what you absolutely don’t desire & wont tolerate sexually, which is your, ‘No’.

Erotic Attachment & Nervous System Imprinting

• Explore how anxious, avoidant, or disorganised attachment styles manifest sexually.

• Rewire erotic bonding patterns that confuse intensity for connection & love & shutdown with loss.

• Shift from erotic performance into secure, reciprocal, sensual connection.
  

Erotic Sovereignty is the reclamation of your body, pleasure, & arousal as sacred - free from performance, shame or external approval. 

 This module helps you attune to your unique arousal blueprint, rebuild body-trust & restore your right to self-led, consensual & intuitive pleasure.

You’ll Explore: 

• Erotic Sovereignty Defined: Understanding erotic autonomy as your ability to choose, feel & experience desire on your terms - without guilt, coercion or performance.   

• Arousal Blueprint Mapping: Identify what truly turns you on vs what was conditioned, learned or tolerated through trauma, porn, the media or cultural imprinting.

• Releasing Performative Eroticism: Let go of arousal habits rooted in ‘being chosen’, seeking validation or unconsciously manipulating desire & sexuality for connection.

• Embodied Arousal Practice: Build sensory literacy through breath work practices, creative visualisation techniques, embodied sensual movement, nourishing self-touch & partner led-touch rituals, fantasy exploration & body-mapping rituals that help restore trust in your intuitive ‘inner yes’ & ‘authentic no’.

• Erotic Boundaries: Learn to recognise your capacity for intimacy moment to moment - understanding when you’re self-sourced vs externally driven or dysregulated.

• Recaliberating Arousal After Trauma: Rewrite Erotic scripts that were once shaped by survival, silence or suppression & anchor new narratives rooted in erotic authenticity, honest, safety & ecstatic, soulful pleasure. 

When someone you’ve loved lies, cheats, ghosts, or manipulates, you - your nervous system, processes it as both a mind & body process; manifesting in emotional danger & deep grief.  

This module helps nourish & restore emotional safety, re-establish self- trust, & rebuild your capacity to love, without losing yourself. 

It’s where heartbreak alchemises into emotional intelligence, where grief becomes self-respect & where hope transforms into discernment.  

 You’ll remember who you were before betrayal fractured your trust - & you’ll  create safe, reciprocal, soul-aligned, future connections.  

You’ll explore & embody:

• Understanding Betrayal as a Nervous System Rupture : How deception, abandonment, or emotional neglect trigger survival responses - hyper-vigilance, shutdown, freeze, control, withdrawal.

• Mapping the Attachment Impact: How betrayal shapes anxious, avoidant & disorganised patterns - from emotional guarding & over-functioning to avoidance of vulnerability or fear of intimacy.

• Reclaiming Internal Safety: Learn somatic & energetic tools to regulate after relational rupture so that emotional availability no longer feels dangerous or overwhelming.

• Healing the Urge to Prove Worth: Release patterns of over-giving, chasing, or staying loyal dynamics that dishonour you. Transform ‘if I love enough, they’ll change’ into ‘I honour myself enough to choose differently’.

• Disentangling Love from Fantasy: Recognise where idealisation, projection, limerence, or trauma-bonding blurs relational reality.  Replace illusion with embodied discernment.

• Grief Integration & Nervous System Repair: Work through heartbreak, anger, confusion & grief cycles with compassionate somatic guidance.

• Forgiveness as Soverignty: Explore forgiveness not as bypassing or reconciliation, but as an energetic release of emotional pain that restores freedom, integrity & personal empowerment.

Codependency is typically a trauma response - an intelligent survival strategy shaped by emotional neglect, enmeshment, or conditional love.  

It teaches us that love must be earned, performed, or sustained through self-sacrifice; meeting the needs of others while abandoning your own.

In this module, we untangle the knots between love & loss of self identity.  

This journey helps you release compulsive helping, rescuing or saving others, & instead helps you reclaim your authentic identity, reclaim your emotional centre, build emotionally mature, interdependent connections - rooted in mutuality, respect, & authentic self-expression.

Codependency isn’t just about over-giving.  It’s about: 

• Revolving your life, identity & emotions around others.

• Confusing care-taking & rescuing others with intimate connection.

• Suppressing your own needs to avoid conflict or rejection.

• Believing yourself worth is based on how much you give, fix or endure.

You’ll explore:

• How codependency is connected to insecure attachment styles & early emotional programming.

• Nervous System triggers that fuel compulsive giving, approval-seeking, or emotional absorption.

• Cultivating self-worth not defined by being needed, liked or chosen.

• How to stop shrinking your truth or needs to maintain connection.

• Reclaiming your autonomy, voice, space & emotional sovereignty in all relationships - romantic, platonic, familial & professional.

• Building healthy boundaries as sacred self-respect.

• Learning reciprocity - you’ll break patterns of over-giving within all relationships & create relationships rooted in mutuality. 

Boundaries build - they don’t block intimacy.   

You’ll be guided with mindful, conscious communication tools that allows you to honour & express your needs, navigate rupture-repair cycles & hold sacred boundaries with love & clarity.

  Boundary setting reveals your authenticity & teaches others what your needs are, while asserting what you won’t tolerate within relationships.

You'll explore:

• Develop conscious communication skills & tools to confidently communicate your boundaries: involving your needs & wants & similarly, what you won’t tolerate - with compassion & clarity & without shame, shutdown or performance.  

• Master the art of detecting red flags early on & attune to green flag energy.

• Learn to listen & not respond reactively. You’ll develop active listening skills & strategies for real-time conversations - helping you remain calm, grounded & proportionate during challenging. conversations, facilitating you to navigate rupture & repair when conflict arises.  

• You’ll receive conscious communication tools to help you navigate rupture-repair cycles within relationships, to help deepen trust & build emotional safety, after conflict. 

• Communication tools to navigate active listening, emotional fluency & conversational pacing.

• Honouring your somatic intuition by understanding & exploring your ‘full body yes’ ‘maybe later’ & ‘sacred, No’. 

• Creating relational connection that’s  rooted in honesty, trust, safety & mutual respect.

Soul-aligned, authentic & sustainable intimacy is rooted in emotional fluency, intelligence & maturity - not performance, or perfection.  

Emotional Mastery is the art of living & loving with embodied, grounded presence - when you’re no longer ruled by fear, emotIonal reactivity, or external validation.  

This module helps you develop emotional maturity as a daily spiritual & relational practice, cultivating balance, resilience, & conscious choice in all areas of your life.

Emotional mastery is not emotional control — it’s sacred awareness. It’s the ability to hold your feelings, your truth, and your humanity with grace. Through this embodiment, love becomes a calm ocean, not a storm.

You’ll learn how to:

• Recognise your emotional landscape

• Anchor proportionality — matching your emotional response to the reality of the moment instead of past wounds.

• Prevent emotional flooding through mindfulness, breath, and nervous system stabilisation before triggers escalate.

• Build resilience elevate  your mindset by reframing setbacks as opportunities for developing growth.

• Cultivate integrity & relational discernment by aligning your emotional expressions, choices, and relationships with your core values rather than impulse, fantasy, or fear.

• Navigate emotional triggers with grace - prevent & manage challenging overthinking loops, anxiety & trauma triggers so you can navigate life & relationships fluidly.  When chaos arises you’ll remain more attuned, grounded & present. 

• Elevate your relational mindset — elevate your level of discernment & shift from reactionary emotional cycles to conscious co-creation in love, work, family, and community.

• Practice emotional self-honoring — expressing feelings without guilt or shame and allowing others their emotional truth without control or withdrawal.

• Move from emotional dependency to emotional intelligence — developing the capacity to self-soothe, regulate, and remain anchored in your truth even when others are in disarray.

It’s time to intentionally choose the kind of intimacy you desire - embodying it from how it feels in your body to how it’s built in your life.  

This module invites you to design love from a palace of emotional maturity, erotic clarity & soul alignment.

You’ll explore:

• Pacing, consent, sovereignty & sacred devotion.

• Differentiating trauma-bonded desire from secure attraction.

• Designing sacred relational blueprints based on mutuality & co-creation.

• Values-aligned exploration of monogamy, non-monogamy & open relationship design.

• Cultivating conscious intimacy as a daily embodied ritual.

You’ve done the work.

Now you embody your journey.

In this final integration, you’ll anchor your transformation into every relationship: romantic, familial, social, erotic & professional.

You’ll walk away with a sacred contract rooted in reciprocity, self-respect, emotional sovereignty, & nervous system informed truth.

You’ll create:

• A relational alignment map:  A personal blueprint for relational alignment in love, family, friendship & community.  Anchor new relational patterns into all  areas of your life - in love, friendship, family & community,   Build relationships that are mutual, emotionally attuned, value-aligned, & interdependent — where self-abandonment is not sacrificed for “connection”.

• A sacred self-contract outlining your conscious, mindful choices: A conscious contract outlining your mindful intentions rooted in your conscious values, reciprocity & self-honouring respect, around how you love, who you love, & what you will no longer tolerate in relationships.  

• Your Conscious Love Blueprint: