Reclaim & thrive - Narcissistic Abuse & Toxic Relationship

Unlock the unconscious blueprints that made toxic love feel magnetic Or inevitable.

Your healing begins by illuminating the unseen imprints that shaped  the architecture behind your attachment & relationship patterns & choices. 

In this healing space, you’ll discover why your nervous system was primed for certain types of relationships &, you’ll be guided with transforming your relational blueprint with radical honesty, deep compassion & elevated awareness, rooted in somatic truth.

You’ll be supported by a crystal-clear relational map - why you stayed, what you longed for & who you were before you adapted.  

Attachment  & Relationship Patterns

• Identify your core attachment blueprint: Secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganised) & understand how it forms the basis of your attraction blueprint. 

• Understand why each attachment style responds uniquely to narcissistic relationship dynamics.

• Explore how unresolved attachment wounds shape attraction, bonding & chemistry.

Before we explore manipulation directly, you’ll learn how many childhood homes & late adult relationships) cycle through:

• Tension Building

• Emotional Rupture or withdrawal

• Reconnection/appeasement/minimisation

• Temporary Calm

• Return to tension 

In childhood, this might have looked like:

• Treading on eggshells

• Silent treatment

• Explosive reactions

• Unpredictable moods

• Emotional Shutdowns

• Sudden warmth, affection & attention after conflict.

Your system learned to track instability as connection  & appeasement as love.  

Narcissistic Family Systems

• Parentification, Enmeshment & Emotional Incest

• Helicopter, Intrusive or Boundary-Eroding Parenting 

• Golden Child vs Scapegoat Roles within family systems

• How emotional invisibility during childhood manifests in adult relationships.

• Why narcissistic partners often mirror early caregiver dynamics 

• How do trauma survivors reenact familiar emotional roles in Adult relationships.
  
  Cultural & Generational Conditioning
• Decode cultural narratives that romanticise chaos, suffering, self-sacrifice or fixing behaviours.

• Break the cycle by clearing inherited ancestral patterns that have sustained trauma-bonded loyalty across generations. 

Inner Child & Inner Teen Wounding

• Explore how abandonment & rejection wounding impacts on adult relationships.

• Heal Mother Wound patterns of over-giving, approval-seeking & emotional caretaking.

• Heal Father Wound patterns of abandonment , emotional distance & inconsistency.

Decode the biochemical lock that made love feel intoxicating & addictive. 

Understand the invisible pattern behind emotional, psychological & spiritual abuse.

Most survivors of manipulation don’t realise they were caught in a cycle of abuse.  This isn’t due to naivety but because emotional abuse is designed to be invisible, subtle & extremely hard to detect without awareness & education. 

You’ll  explore the neuroscience behind why you get hooked In unhealthy relationships & why it’s so hard to break free.

The Invisible Cycle that fuels Trauma-bonds:

Emotional Abuse follows the same behavioural pattern as domestic violence; but the wounds are internal; psychological & energetic.

You will understand the architecture of non-physical, domestic violence

Tension-Building Phase

• Emotional withdrawal
• Irritability
• Micro-criticisms
• Unpredictable moods
• Coldness
• Testing boundaries
• Testing via proof of loyalty
• Scanning for non-verbal cues so that they can understand your emotional reactions.

The Incident Phase (Non-physical):

Instead of physical violence (which can leave evidence & proof of harm) the abuser adopts tactics used to damage your mind, identity & reality:

• Gaslighting 
• Stonewalling 
• Emotional Domination
• Disappearing Acts
• Triangulation 
• Silent treatment 
• guilt manipulation 
• Jealousy Induction 
• Inducing shame 

Reconciliation & Minimisation Phase

During this phase of abuse, the manipulator softens their tactics to keep you hooked.  In doing so your mind & body relaxes, but your intuition is still suspecting . . . 

• ’I didn’t mean it’: normally supported by external factors & victimised, self-pitying behaviour further justifying the behaviours such as, ‘I was under work pressure’.  ’It’s because of my upbringing‘.

• You’re too sensitive: flipping the blame by accusing you of not having the emotional capacity to tolerate harmful behaviours & actions.

• ’I love you. you know that!’

• Sexual reconnection to override hurt 

• Future-faking & more promises made to sustain the relationship 

• Spiritual Bypassing ‘everything happens for a reason’

Calm/Honeymoon phase:

The illusion that the relationship is alive & that ’things are good again’.  Because your nervous system remembers why you loved them & your guard softens.

• Affection & warmth
• Consistency
• Promises
• Vulnerable confessions
• Emotional Availability
• Enhanced spiritual or sexual connection 

What you’ll explore: 

The Trauma-Bond Chemistry Loop: 

Explore  how intermittent reinforcement (hot–cold, push–pull patterns) creates an addictive & turbulent  “high-low” cycle.

• Why does inconsistency fuel obsession?

• Why do trauma-bonded relationships feel destined, magnetic, intense or spiritually charged & destined. 

• Understand how The “emotional hunger“ patterns fuels obsessive longing & withdrawal cycles. 

• How do unresolved childhood wounds sculpt adult attraction?

In this module we illuminate the deeper architecture that shaped your attraction patterns, your relational instincts & the emotional chemistry loops that made certain people feel irresistibly magnetic, even when they were never safe for you.

This is where unconscious attraction becomes conscious relational clarity; where wounding-driven chemistry dissolves & intentional, aligned intimacy becomes your new relational baseline. This brings your unconscious relational loops into full clarity so that you can consciously choose differently.

You’ll elevate your self-awareness by accurately identifying not just the patterns of others, but clarity around your own internal relational compass, facilitating you to begin recalibrating it towards relationships that feel emotionally safe, steady, nourishing, reciprocal & spiritually aligned. 

• Childhood Reenactment Patterns in adult relationships & Emotional role repetition in adulthood: Explore how unmet childhood emotional wounds & needs shape romantic partner selection in adulthood. 

• Why compassionate empathy, emotional depth & openness & intuition attract & get exploited by manipulators.

• How emotional starvation becomes a magnet for ‘crumbs’ of love.

• How reenactment of being unseen, unheard or misunderstood fuels chemistry & becomes an entry point for manipulation.

• How Childhood emotional roles (caretaker, peacekeeper, invisible child, scapegoat) become adult relationship patterns.

Attraction, Activation & Alignment

Not every spark is your soulmate 

You’ll learn to differentiate:

• Attraction: natural & mutual resonance 
• Activation: trauma-based chemistry , anxiety driven longing, highs & lows.
• Alignment: shared values, emotional maturity & reciprocal intention.

The Energetic Dance in toxic relationships: 

Explore how archetypal dynamics  create the illusion of destiny, chemistry & spiritual connection; when the reality is that the bond was established on emotional deprivation. 

Decode the unconscious relational choreography between:

• The Trophy Collector

• The Fantasy Chaser

• The Sales Pitcher 

• The Validation Seeker

• The Over-Giver

• The Emotional Withholder

• The Victim

The Entanglement between: Codependency, Empathy & Narcisissm:

• How over-functioning creates space for others to understand-function.

• Why people-pleases attract emotional takers.

• How blurred boundaries create emotional vulnerability.

• Why does needing to be needed become a gateway for exploitation.

• How the fixer becomes magnetised to the ‘broken’

Situationships anxious-Avoidant & Almost Relationship Loops:

Situationships aren’t casual relationships; they are attraction patterns & not manipulation patters.

They are structured on emotional deprivation cycles that mimic trauma bonds & they deeply impact anxious, avoidant & disorganised nervous systems.

Why Situationships feel Addictive

Situationships operate on:

• Intermittent Affection ➡️dopamine spikes

• Breadcrumbing ➡️ Reward circuitry activation 

• Fantasy Projection emotional intoxication 

• Just-enough Intimacy prevents withdrawal 

• Vagueness keeps you chasing clarity.

Spiritualised Situationships

Spiritual language becomes the perfect disguise for emotional avoidance, while using conscious language to convi connection:

• ’Labels limit us’

• Our souls know the truth

• Its destiny that we met 

• Commitment is attachment & dependency 

Exploring the different presentations of Narcissism: 

• Grandiose Narcissism: Entitlement, Superiority & Performative behaviours.

• Covert Narcissism: Vulnerable presentation marked by perpetual self-pity & victimhood.

• Malignant Narcissism: the most pathological & dangerous sub-types marked by intentional harm, sadism & cruelty.

• Machiavellian Narcissism: Highly calculated & strategic manipulation tactics, operated by charm to gain the target’s trust.

• Spiritual Narcissism: Weaponising belief systems, healing & community by using sacred language as a control tactic to dominate & induce fear.

How Insecure Attachment can Mimic Narcissism 

These patterns can most definitely feel like narcissistic abuse; as  they’re rooted in fear, abandon & rejection wounding. Unlike narcissism, there’s no intentional harm or malice behind actions & behaviours.

• Anxious Attachers - sometimes unintentionally love-bomb & use hoovering tactics.  They might appear to be self-focused during times of panic or distress.

• Avoidant Attachers - withholding, dismissive behaviours, ghosting when intimacy feels overwhelming but typically showing up with keen interest during early dating phases can mimic narcissistic cycles.

• Disorganised Attachment - the hot & cold patterns associated with this attachment dynamic can create turbulent, rollercoaster style relationships marked by uncertainty & chaos.

How Neurodivergence can be Misinterpreted as Narcissism 

Understand the nuances that can be wrongly labelled as narcissism:

• ADHD:  impulsivity, inconsistency, tendency to be self-focused due to challenges around attention.
• Autism Spectrum Disorder:: Processing needs & sensory overwhelm causes emotional Shutdown, especially during times of conflict.  Difficulties with detecting emotional & subtle nuances can create. challenges around empathy & understanding the needs of others.

Cluster B Nuance, Co-morbidities, symptom overlap & Misdiagnosis Prevention 

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

• Idealisation & intense, overwhelming feelings can mimic future-faking & love bombing tactics, followed by triggers around rejection & abandonment, manifesting in  emotional outbursts or withdrawal patterns, can mimic idealisation, devaluation & discarding tactics associated with narcissistic abuse.

• Drama & chaos underpins relationships

• Trauma driven emotional dysregulation manifesting in volatile emotions or causing a shutdown response for individuals with silent Borderline Personality Disorder. 

• Emotional immaturity 

Who do Manipulators target and why?

Perhaps the most insidious aspect of manipulation is the slow erosion of undermining your internal truth, which makes you question yourself, your reality & your ability to trust yourself & others.  What you endured wasn’t ‘miscommunication’, ‘incompatibility’ or ‘bad timing’, it was coercive, psychological & emotional control woven into the illusion of love.

You will walk away from this module with unshakable clarity about:

• What happened to you
• How it affected you
• Why it was so confusing 
• Why it was so hard to leave 
• Why the relationship felt spiritually destined
• And why the accountability doesn‘t reside with you.

The Full Cycle of Abuse

Emotional, Psychological, Energetic. Without ever raising a hand.

Many assume that domestic abuse requires physical violence. It does not.

Emotional abuse follows the exact same cycle; but the wounds remain invisible, internal & sometimes even more destabilising than physical violence. 

You will learn how the cycle of abuse manifests in non-physically violent relationships

Tension Building:

• Irritability

• Emotional Unavailability

• Criticism 

• Micro-neglect

• Coldness

• Testing loyalty & boundaries to see how much & which behaviours you’re willing to tolerate.

• Confusion around what you did wrong & your role for the withdrawal.
  

Incident

Non physical violence, but emotional rupture: 

• Gaslighting

• Blame-shifting

• Triangulation

• Unprovoked rage

• Silent treatment

• Jealousy induction

• Accusations that don’t make sense which are typically projections.

• Manipulation laced as concern via control.

This causes the nervous system to become dysregulated & wired for hyper-vigilance which is the mind & body’s intelligent response of alerting danger.  

Reconciliation & minimisation

The addictive hook in trauma-bond dynamics:

• Apologies without change of behaviour

• Hoovering tactics: Tenderness, warmth & affection that erases emotional wounding.

• Sexual reconnection to override emotional pain 

• Spiritual bypassing:  ‘ everything happens for a reason’.

• Future-faking: empty promises around creating a sustainable future.

Calm/Honeymoon Phase:

The Sweetest Illusion 

• Warmth
• Charm
• Attentiveness
• Acts of devotion 
• ‘They’ve changed, this is the real them’ fallacies
• Temporary peace that feels like home 

So you relax & there is a period of calm…until the tension escalates & the cycle continues….

The Return to Tension

The cycle repeats.  Only this time it’s deeper, sharper & faster.

And this is how emotional dependency is engineered.

Coercive Control: 

Abuse without bruises

The Invisible Cage, the psychological leash & the erosion of self. 

Coercive control is the backbone of emotionally abusive & narcissistic relationships.  It steals autonomy, ruptures identity & manipulates your entire world without leaving a single visible mark.

You’ll learn how coercive control operates through:

Emotional & Behavioural Control 

• Emotional monitoring

• Mood-based punishment

• ‘You’re too sensitive‘ conditioning: belittling, reverse blame & gaslighting.

• Boundary Erosion 

• Shame-based compliance & obedience

• Guilt-tripping

• Isolation from healthy support systems 

Digital & Technological Control & Surveillance Tactics:

• Phone mirroring

• Location Tracking

• Monitoring from Fake, anonymous accounts

• Checking devices

• Password coercion 

• Triangulation & baiting via posting stories or content to induce jealousy, competition.

Identity Erosion 

• Undermining your self-concept 

• Intentionally making you doubt & question your intuition perception & memory.

• Weakening your relationship with your intuition to induce perpetual self-doubt.

• Testing, disrespecting & dissolving your boundaries.

Sexual, Energetic & Spiritual Control:

• Sexual coercion

• Spiritual Bypassing using religious, spiritual or tantra based narratives using sacred language used To groom, manipulate & override consent.

• Soulmate or twin flame grooming narratives

The Architecture of Manipulation

How charm becomes a disguise & vulnerability becomes a strategy.You’ll learn every mask, pattern & tactic; not to fear love but to discern & consciously create better relationship choices with confidence.

Idealisation Strategies:

You’ll become fluent in decoding:

• Love-bombing

• Mirroring

• Premature Intimacy & Seduction as a manipulation tactic 

• Future-faking

• Curated vulnerability

• Spiritual seduction such as ‘you’re my soulmate’ narratives 

Devaluation Strategies 

• Gaslighting

• Projection

• Deflection

• Boundary erosion & violation

• Emotional Baiting

• Jealousy Induction

• Minimisation

• Triangulation

• Reverse-blame tactics

• Intermittent affection followed by neglect

Discard & Post-Separation Abuse

• Smear Campaigns

• Reputation sabotage

• Digital surveillance & monitoring 

• Stalking 

• Silent Treatment

• Stonewalling

• Flying Monkeys

• Hoovering (the return hook)

Manipulative Relationships can involve covert surveillance patterns; not always through technology, but through psychological monitoring, behavioural tracking & emotional data-mining.

Survivors rarely realise how profoundly watched, studied & shaped they are.

Emotional Surveillance

Is when a manipulator collects emotional data to learn your:

• Insecurities 
• What your emotional triggers are 
• What your attachment wounds are
• Your forgiveness threshold 
• What makes you melt
• What will make you stay
• What you fear losing 
• How quickly you are willing to resolve conflict 

In doing so, this emotional information becomes leverage for further weaponisation.

Behavioural Surveillance 

They analyse your patterns so that they can be controlled:

• ‘Why didn’t you answer ‘
• ‘Who were you talking to’
• Keeping mental logs of your behaviours
• Testing your emotional reactions 
• Mirroring you early to gain trust 
• Monitoring micro-changes in your tone, face & body 
• Changing their behaviour based on your cues; not to understand you, or out of concern but for further control 

Psychological Data Mining

Your inner world becomes their material for betrayed & weaponised against you via:

• Trauma-bonding 
• Guilt Induction
• Manufactured vulnerability
• Spiritual Bypassing: ‘I feel your soul’ illusions
• Mirroring your values & desires to gain trust by mimicking you.
• Future faking 

Identity Surveillance

Manipulators track:

• Who influences & inspires you

• What you value

• Who you rely on

• What boundaries you’re willing to break

• How much betrayal you can tolerate

• Testing boundaries & intentionally provoking a reaction to see how much you will tolerate.

This helps them to shape your reality.

Fantasy Detox

Releasing the illusion so you can heal the truth.

Fantasy bonding is a trauma response; the part of you that becomes fixed onto what could be, instead of what it was.

You will dismantle:

• Twin-flame illusions

• Soulmate grooming

• Destiny narratives 

• Chemistry fuelled addiction

• Trauma-based identity

• False-hope loops

• Spiritualised manipulation

• Disney-fuelled fairytale expectations 

Self-Gaslighting Repair:

Reclaim internal truth after chronic distortion 

You’ll learn to: 

• Stop internalised minimisation

• Stop doubting your experiences

• Trust your emotional perception 

• Reclaim internal safety

• Reclaim your intuition after chronic distortion 

• Rebuild somatic truth detection

Spiritual Abuse

Reclaim belief spirituality from those who weaponised it.

When spirituality & religion becomes a weapon for control, instead of a healing path:

• Guru/teacher or preacher authority abuse

• Tantra based sexual coercion

• Destiny narratives

• Spiritual seduction

• Sacred language used to control

• Purity control narratives

• Weaponised intuition 

Reactive Abuse & Behavioural Entrapment

Reactive abuse is NOT abuse; it’s an traumatised & understandable nervous system responding to psychological warfare.

Understand the neuroscience behind provocation.  In doing so you’ll understand that your reaction isn’t abusive.

You’ll explore: 

• How baiting works
• How abusers weaponise your emotional reactions to reverse blame 
• How blame gets flipped by manipulators 
• Why you were pushed into emotional overwhelm 
• How emotional explosions are intentionally engineered 

The Neuroscience of Provocation

• Understand how the nervous system responds psychological warfare.
• Understand how gaslighting & manipulation tactics used to undermine & question your reality, intuition & experience triggers feelings of doubt, panic, overthinking resulting in feeling stuck or freeze states, or spiralling into emotional reactivity.

Reactive abuse is NOT abuse:

• How abusers manufacture emotional explosions 
• How manipulators will intentionally push, bait, antagonise in order to weaponise your reactions as ‘proof’ that you’re the problem.
• How this fuels patterns of shame-based compliance.

Behavioural Entrapment

• The Psychology of Baiting
• Emotional traps designed to flip blame or play victim
• The Cycle of Provocation: Provoke➡️Reaction➡️Punishment

Self-Gaslighting Repair:

• How to trust your emotional perception 

• How to name your experience without shame

• How to reclaim your inner voice

• Communication & boundary scripts 

• Understand baiting: how manipulators & abusers will deliberately antagonise to provoke an emotional reaction to reverse blame & accountability so ultimately it’s your fault.

• Understand how manipulators will weaponise your emotional reactions against you.

Manipulative, narcissistic & toxic relationships slowly condition you into tolerating the intolerable.  

When there’s no conscious intention, relationships become destabilising & almost impossible to navigate.

This module empowers your ability to recognise intentional & conscious personality traits on a somatic, intuitive, energetic & psychological level, the difference between unsafe chemistry & safe connection so that you can stop repeating old cycles.

Over time, emotional abuse conditions you to: 

• Normalise chaos

• Excuse instability

• Interpret intensity & chemistry as passion & intimacy

• Confuse inconsistency with chemistry

• Tolerate emotional whiplash & betrayal as ‘just how all relationships are’.
  

Healthy Love Has a Pattern & so does chaos!

No matter your relationship structure or sexual orientation, whether your monogamous, non-monogamous, queer, spiritual, sacred; emotionally healthy relationships share universal traits: 

• Conscious Intention

• Honesty

• Mutual Respect

• Integrity

• Consistency

• Relational safety via emotional attunement & co-regulation

• Aligned Values 

• Honest & Clear Communication

• A desire to grow without losing individuality

You’ll gain confidence in differentiating between somebody who’s consciously intentional, emotionally available &, somebody who mirrors & manipulates in order to get their needs met.

This is where you learn to recognise safety as a somatic experience thats  not just on a cognitive or cerebral level.

facilitating you to successfully & confidently identify emotional maturity, secure behaviour & reciprocal connection through: 

Discernment, Integrity & Character Reading

• Integrity vs performance

• Emotional steadiness vs seductive intensity

• Authenticity  vs curated vulnerability

• Values alignment vs fantasy projection

• Words aligning with action 

Green Flag Energy

Safe, conscious & intentional individuals don’t create emotional whiplash. They don’t confuse you, destabilise you or make you earn love. 

They show up authentically:

• Clarity

• No mixed signals

• Consistent in their actions & behaviours

• They don’t test people’s loyalty

• Emotional steadiness & pacing vs emotional seduction or premature merging

• Mutual investment & reciprocation

• Accountability for their actions, behaviours & feelings. They don’t blame, project or deflect blame onto others.

• Care that matches intention, not promises without follow through 

Red Flag Recognition

Gain confidence & clarity around identifying the subtle & overt warning signs associated with coercive control, power & manipulation that early childhood wounding & trauma once taught you to dismiss as normal, perhaps even loving behaviours: 

• Premature intensity & fast developing relationships -fairytale, ’I knew that you were the one from the moment I saw you, ‘ narratives or declaring a soulmate connection.

• Hot & cold behaviours

• Boundary Testing

• Inconsistency of words not aligning with action & behaviors

• Jealousy Induction

• Emotional Ambiguity

Red Flag Somatic Detection:

What your body detects & feels around emotionally unsafe people:

• Hyper-vigilance: Feeling on guard & overly aware your surroundings.

• Stomach drops 

• Jaw tension

• Tight chest

• Breath constriction

• Brain-fog & confusion

• Sense of shrinking

Somatic Green Flags

What your body detects & feels around emotionally safe people:

• Full body presence

• Capacity To speak freely

• Ability to relax while remaining aware of your surroundings

• Warm, tingling feeling

• Steady heart rhythm

• Slow, rhythmic  breath 

Betrayal in manipulative relationships isn’t a single event it’s systematic, chronic, intentional & often strategic.  Betrayal is the violation of emotional safety, transcending beyond cheating, affairs & infidelity:

The Anatomy of Betrayal:

Survivors typically experience multiple forms of betrayal at once in manipulative relationships.

Emotional Betrayal:

• Emotional infidelity

• Micro-infidelities

• Hidden digital behaviours 

• Living secret lives 

• Parallel relationships that aren’t disclosed 

• Financial betrayal & exploitation 

• Broken promises 

• Future  faking as emotional extortion

Sexual Betrayal:

• Micro-cheating 

• Sexual Deception

• Using sex to manipulate control, attachment or as punishment.

Relational Betrayal

• Triangulation

• Hidden relationships

• Flirtation disguised as friendship

• Loyalty testing 

Digital Betrayal

• Secret accounts

• Online flirting

• Sexting

• Micro-cheating 

• Hidden messages, contacts or communication

Financial Betrayal

• Money secrecy

• Financial Exploitation 

• Manipulation via financial dependency

• Fraud 

Spiritual Betrayal:

• Weaponising spirituality or intuition 

• Using energetic or religious language to manipulate or assert control.

• Soulmate/twin-mate grooming

• Destiny & fated narratives 

Future-Faking & Soul-Contract Grooming:

Perhaps the most devastating betrayal of all is the deception around the future that they promised.

Betrayal Shatters the Nervous System, because it violates:

• Attachment Dynamics 

• Core Identity

• Severs intuition 

• Ruptures self-trust

• Can distort your worldview manifesting in negative & inaccurate  perceptions around life & love. 

• Nervous system dysregulation manifesting on emotional, psychological & physical wellbeing.

The Impact of Betrayal Trauma

Betrayal trauma collapses core pillars of wellbeing:

• Identity fragmentation 

• Loss of internal safety

• Collapsed self-trust

• Emotional & Physical Dysregulation

• Autonomy loss

• Hyper-vigilance 

• Attachment rupture

• Shame & self-blame 

Deep Healing from Betrayal Trauma:

• Betrayal grief mapping

• Nervous system stabilisation

• Identity rebuilding

• Relationship detox rituals

• Energetic healing rituals

• Repairing the somatic rupture by reestablishing internal safety & rebuilding self-trust.

• Grounding & embodiment rituals

Identity & Self-trust Restoration:

• Reclaiming intuition

• Reclaiming confidence in your ability to communicate how you’re feeling

• Reclaim core identity & self-concept 

Emotional Integration

• Grief rituals

• Shame detox processes

• Releasing cognitive dissonance

• Healing obsessive loops

Relational Recalibration:

• Rebuilding safety

• Boundary setting 

• Cultivating green flag & safe person awareness

• Restoring erotic safety

• Sexual betrayal 

• Relational betrayal & triangulation 

• Financial Betrayal

• Digital Betrayal

• Betrayal via manufactured vulnerability 

• Betrayal of promises, intimacy & future faking

The Impact of Betrayal Trauma

• Identity fragmentation

• Attachment Wounding

• Loss of internal safety, relational safety, self-trust & trust in others

• Nervous System collapse manifesting in emotional, psychological & physical wellbeing.

• Misplaced shame & guilt

• Healing self-blame & cognitive dissonance.

Healing Betrayal Trauma:

• Grief rituals

• Somatic Betrayal Repair

• Ending Betrayal Repetition Cycles

• Nervous System restoration for managing shock

• Restoring erotic safety

• Restoring safe intimacy

• Rebuilding Self-trust

• Strategies for overwhelming emotions

Your emotional safety & stabilisation plan for preventing & managing distressful triggers during the especially challenging devaluation & discard phase.

Navigate the devaluation & discard cycle during the post-separation abuse period:

• Understand why your nervous system becomes dysregulated & unbalanced during the devaluation & discard stages.

• Understand why devaluation & discard triggers primal abandonment fear.

• Navigate challenging & overwhelming feelings such as confusion, shame, unworthiness & despair. 

• Strategies & solutions for interrupting urges to reach out & reconnect.

• Heal obsessive thoughts & rumination.

• Solutions for grieving the fantasy, & not the person.

• Break patterns of self-blame & shame spirals.

• Somatic grounding techniques for trigger management & prevention.

Understand how perpetrators operate tactics including:

• Stalking 

• Threats of Self-harm

• Reputation sabotage

• Smear Campaigns

• Flying Monkeys

• Weaponised Empathy

A strategic safety roadmap empowering you to navigate permanently breaking the cycle from the relationship on every level: 

Physically, mentally, emotionally & energetically; even if there’s children involved.

Everything you need to feel supported from deactivating attachment:

• Emotional no-contact

• Somatic Grey Rock Method

• Deactivating internal attachment

• Ending hope loops & fantasy bonding

• Navigating Digital & Social Safety

• Boundary Scripts

• Hoovering resistance

• Handling shared spaces, social entanglements & Flying Monkeys 

• Attunement & nervous system, somatic grounding techniques for preventing destabilisation.

For Parents:

• How to protect your child from emotional manipulation & triangulation.

• High-Conflict Communication

• Documentation & Safety processes

• Remaining attuned & supporting your child’s emotional regulation with somatic co-regulation techniques.

• Understand how narcissists weaponise the legal system & receive guidance around protection & safety.

Manipulative, abusive, toxic & Narcissistic relationships transcend beyond heartbreak; they have the capacity to rupture your core identity, distorting your sense of self.

This module guides you through the sacred reclamation of your:

Identity Erosion

You’ll understand how prolonged manipulation dissolves your:

• Core Identity & Self-Concept:  your identity, how you think about yourself.

• Relational Identity 

• Your intuition, Sense of Reality & Self-trust

• Your personality

• Your sense of self: your worth, confidence & esteem

• Navigating your Moral Compass:  Your personal truth: what you stand for, what you believe in & what you place value in.

• Emotional Clarity around your preferences & boundaries. 

Explore & understand how emotional abuse creates: 

• Identity fragmentation

• Chronic self-doubt

• Fear around decision making

• Approval addiction

• Obedience & compliance wiring

• Emotional amnesia

• Dissociative processes 

Identity Rebirth Rituals

• Somatic Identity Mapping

• Nervous System Recalibration

• Trauma-informed inner child wounding & Shadow Work Integration techniques

• Grief rituals for releasing & letting go

• Pleasure-based identity & boundaries mapping

• Reclaiming autonomy, agency & desire

Reparenting techniques 

• Inner grief & identity mourning rituals

• Reclaim & re-discover your core identity

• End survival patterns: fawn, freeze, appease keeping you stuck.

• Detox feelings of shame & guilt.

• Reclaim self-trust

Become un-manipulatable.  
Elevate your discernment & self-respect by clearly & confidently outlining what you won’t tolerate & what aligns with you.  

You’ll become impossible to manipulate without becoming closed off to soul-aligned conscious love.

• Physical Boundaries

• Emotional Boundary Setting

• Digital Boundary Setting

• Energetic & Spiritual Boundary Setting

• Sexual Boundary Setting

• Relational Boundary Setting

• Intimacy Boundary setting 

Somatic Boundary Setting Skills

• Intuitively detecting what ‘yes’ & ‘no’ feels like in your body, somatically.

• Energetic shields

• Nervous System led decision making

Boundary Setting Scripts

• Dating

• Relationships

• Family

• Friends

• Workplace strategies

• Boundaries with manipulators

• Co-Parenting boundaries

You will leave this phase feeling confident in knowing how to:

• Intentionally choose aligned partners

• Embody secure intimacy

• Create relationship agreements

• Navigate conflict consciously

• feel safe in your erotic expression 

• Trust your intuition

• Feel ‘yes’ & ‘no’ in your body 

• Cultivate secure, reciprocal nourishing love 

• Honour your boundaries with grace

• Conscious Dating: Intentional, Embodied & clarity-led

No matter your relationship structure (monogamy, conscious non-monogamy, long-term partnership, or self-led erotic reclamation), you will learn how to date from a place of:

• Conscious intentionality

• Values

• Alignment 

• Discernment

• Self-worth

You’ll master:

Embodied Dating Discernment 

How to somatically sense whether somebody’s energy is:

• Safe

• Consistent

• Emotionally available

• Integrity-led

• Aligned with your relational vision 

Aligned Connection vs Chaotic Chemistry

How to detect & distinguish between:

• Trauma-bonded familiarity & chemistry

• Anxious-attachment activation

• Avoidant Pursuit

• Secure, embodied attraction

• Mutual desir

• Reciprocal Curiosity

• Embodied connection 

Intimacy Pacing

How to move slowly enough to feel your body’s signals but not so slowly that you feel disconnected from desire.

Secure Conflict & Navigating rupture & repair cycles.Repair Skills: 

Loving strategies for the emotionally fluent heart:

Love isn’t the absence of conflict; it’s the presence of repair.

This is where you un-learn the chaos-war zone conditioning of manipulative relationships. 

You will learn:

• Secure confrontation protocols: : Conscious communication to understand without accusation, blame, assumption, anxiety, overthinking, panic , withdrawal or shutdown.

• How to express your needs mindfully & without feeling guilt, shame or fear in doing so.

• Navigating conflict to enrich intimacy rather than rupturing it.

• Recognising emotionally fluent & mature people.

• Attunement, regulation & co-regulation 

Relational Agreements & Conscious Communication Maps

You will be supported with nourishing relational templates for:

• Boundary setting

• Navigating expectations

• Intimacy pacing

• Communication strategies & rituals for enhancing intimacy

• Shared visions

• Erotic Agreements

• Dating with clarity

Everything that you need to cultivate conscious, mindful, pleasure elevated & emotionally fluent relationships:

You’ll feel empowered to navigate:

• Dating scripts

• Communication maps

• Boundary language

• Somatic ‘yes’/‘no’ tools

• Erotic Safety protocols

Co-Regulation Rituals for Nourishing Conscious Love:

Where love becomes a verb, not a performance

• Attunement, regulation & co-regulation protocols: soothe your partner with embodied presence without self-abandoning & be soothed & supported without collapsing into reliance & dependency.

• Cultivate emotional safety together 

• Intimacy & pleasure enhancing rituals 

Post-Traumatic Growth & Soul-Aligned Relationships

You’ll be supported in creating a relationship blueprint rooted in:

• Mutual reciprocity

• Emotional Integrity

• Erotic safety & presence

• Shared values

• Conscious intention

Based on:

• Your new relational identity

• Your values-led future self

• Your boundaries as sacred self-honouring & commitments rooted in self-respect for what you need, desire & what you won’t tolerate.

• Reclaiming erotic intuition 

• Your capacity for consciously choosing nourishing love

• Your capacity for being met without shrinking 

Erotic Sovereignty: Returning Home to your Body & Desire

You will reconnect with:

• Authentic desire vs trauma-activated chemistry 
• Elevated capacity for pleasure 
• Secure erotic expression & identity
• Nervous system aligned intimacy
• Enhanced connection with sensuality without performance

You’ll Learn:

• Boundary based erotic body mapping 
• How to to experience sexual connection without collapsing into trauma responses of freeze, fawn or appeasement

Secure Erotic Templates:

You’ll understand how secure erotic intimacy differs from trauma-bonded chemistry:

Trauma Bonded intimacy:

• High-low & hot-cold cycles 
• Obsession loops
• Chemistry fuelled addiction 
• Withdrawal panic
• Sexual pressure 
• Intensity confused for soul-aligned connection

Secure Erotic Intimacy:

How to feel erotically alive & empowered without chaos

• Slow-burn build
• Intentional Pacing
• Emotional Safety
• Mutual Desire 
• Grounded sensuality
• Erotic energy & presence
• Attunement & co-created intimacy
• Dating rooted in conscious intentionality, mutuality, aligned goals vs longing.

• Choosing partners based on emotional compatibility, shared values & slow-burn build over chemistry.

• Pacing intimacy with emotional clarity.

• Boundary-led erotic body mapping to identify what your “yes” & “no” feels like in your body.

• Restoring erotic intuition after manipulation.

• Embodying secure erotic expression.

• Healing the trauma-pleasure split.