Erotic Healing & Sexual Wellbeing Coaching

Most of us were quietly trained to play a role sexually; the ”cool” partner, the “caretaker”, “the fantasy”, “the goddess“ ”the one who doesn’t need much“.

Over time, those roles become armour,  underneath them lives your authentic erotic self.

Healing Focus:

• To reclaim confidence in your authentic erotic & sexual expression.

• Self-awareness around who you are as a sexual being & creating relationships that reflect your erotic blueprint.

What we work with:

• Deconstructing shame-based & performative scripts that keep you people-pleasing in bed.

• Attachment-Informed Erotic Identity Mapping: How does Anxious, Avoidant & Disorganised patterns manifest erotically.

• Differentiating “who I was trained to be sexually“ from “who I actually am, what I desire, what turns me on & what do I need from my partner in order to feel erotically safe & connected”.

How this supports cultivating Secure Erotic Attachment:

You’ll stop contorting yourself to be chosen & start dating consciously.  

For those in relationships, you’ll start consciously relating & having sex in a way that aligns with your sexual desires, while supporting your nervous system & your values.

Pleasure isn’t connected with performance.

Achieving orgasm isn’t goal-orientated.

Pleasure is a language that your body remembers when it feels safe.  
And it starts with you!

Establishing sexual & erotic safety begins with self-awareness & connection.  

After all if you don’t authentically understand what you personally truly desire in bed & what kind of touch turns you on vs what you don’t erotically desire then how can others activate your pleasure.

Healing Focus:

Sacred Self-Touch & Energy Circulation 

Self-led pleasure rituals: 

• Awakening erotic sensation, without pressure to climax.
• Circulating erotic energy through the energetic chakra system using breathwork technique, de-armouring techniques & somatic movement. 
• Gradually expanding your capacity for pleasure safely & in a way that feels authentic & non-performative.  
  

YonI Pelvic Mapping & Womb Wisdom for females 

Nourishing, choice-led practices to help you reconnect with erotic spaces that feel over-identified with trauma, tension, discomfort, or a lack of erotic sensation.

Partner-Led Practices & Co-Regulated, Attuned Intimacy

Shared Breath & Eye-Gazing Rituals

Connection enhancing exercises to cultivate embodied presence, erotic safety & sacred connection as part as foreplay.

Conscious Touch & Consent Rituals 

Touch menus

Somatic Boundary’s: Yes, No, Maybe Practices

That help you distinguish between what feels desirable & wanted in the moment, what doesn’t erotically align with you& what you’re willing to try sexually in the future. But doesn’t feel right for you now.  You’ll be able to communicate confidently & unapologetically.  

Tantra-Informed Pleasure Protocols for Couples

Tantra becomes an erotic language of attunement, connection, choice & sexual exploration, rather than pressure to be more sexually spiritual or more erotically “wild” than your nervous system’s capacity.

Adaptable rituals depending on your personal sexual, intimacy & relational design for:

• Sexual Pacing
• Exploring sensuality, erotic energy, fantasy & maybe kink edges from a regulated nervous system-state.
• Expanding your sexual repertoire 
• Integrating sexual aftercare as ritualistic 

What we Work With:

Guided Inner Journeys that help you access:

• Erotic, Creative visualisation techniques
• Experiment with desires, boundaries & future maybes.
• Meet your ‘Future Erotic Self’: a more grounded, confident & clear version of you; & brung their energy, posture & voice into the present moment.

Erotic Body-Scan & Trigger-Dissolving Check-Ins: 

Trauma-informed, somatic healing scans to help you:

• Gently track Physical Sensations: from desirable, pleasurable sensations that turn us on, so we want to deepen the sensation because we want to feel more of it, such as warm & tingly sensations, to undesirable sensations that reflect our turn-off‘s, such as feeling tight.  Or perhaps there’s no sensation & the feeling feels neutral in your body.  Your body holds the key for detecting what feels good & what feels ad before the mind can process it.

• Focus on relieving tension from typical trauma-holding zones: jaw, pelvis, throat, neck, belly.

• Guide you in to feeling the difference between your body’s internal cues that signal, “YES”, “NO”, &”MAYBE, NOT YET”.

• These somatic check-ins when used before erotic experiences (to check in with erotic capacity) & after (for terrace, repair & integration).
  

Pleasure-Amplifying Movement & Somatic Flows 

Slow, sensual, stretch-based & flexibility-enhancing movement fusing Yoga, Pilates, Belly Dance & Somatic Movement:

• Grounding Embodied Presence: Floor-based flows to energetically connect with your root chakra.  Release stress, anxiety & freeze states keeping you locked in survival loops. 
• Soften & Open: Gentle hip circles, spinal waves, chest & rib work, releasing gripping & bracing tendencies.
• Embody & Ignite: When your nervous system feels ready, regulated & balanced then more fluid expressive & sensual movement that allows erotic energy to circulate, rather than get stuck in your fascia & body as tension, or pain.

All flows are adaptation-friendly PRACTICES.  They can also be practiced as non-erotic nervous system reset or softly sensual/erotically empowering, depending on your current path & capacity.

How this supports Secure Erotic Attachment: 

Pleasure becomes a trusted & regulated resource, rather than a trauma-inducing trigger, a porn performance, or a way to abandon yourself

If you’re feeling triggered around sex & intimacy then perhaps you start overthinking, maybe you panic or totally switch-off & become disconnected.

Perhaps your mind says ‘let’s go!’ But your body braces for danger & you feel disconnected?

Or maybe you feel out of control around sex, that was it’s more of a need & a compulsion to physically & emotionally feel good.  

Either way, this is your nervous system protecting you.

Healing Focus:

• Recalibrating sexual extreme patterns of “all or nothing” at nervous system level.

• Dissolving triggers around sex & intimacy including panic, avoidance, anxiety, overthinking or compulsive patterns.

What We Work With:

• Regulating your Erotic Window of Tolerance: why your body spikes or shuts down around sex.

• All-or-nothing sexual patterns: hyper-sexuality/hypo-sexuality.

• Developing healthy constructs of sexual dynamics & intimacy, pacing & consent.

• Trigger-dissolving & grounding embodied presence, somatic healing techniques: Nervous system regulating & mind-body safety healing solutions for maintaining attuned presence during sex & intimacy. Such as movement, erotically amplifying breathwork techniques, guided-body scan rituals, meditation & creative visualisation to help prevent flashbacks, shame or freeze states around sex & intimacy.

How this supports Secure Erotic Attachment:

Your body no longer has to between  ‘everything‘ or ‘nothing’ around sex & intimacy.  

Instead intimacy becomes something your nervous system can process feeling resourced, safe & empowered; rather than going through the motions or braced.

Once internal-safety has been anchored, it’s time for you to give your erotic truth, self-expression.  You’ll feel confident to clearly express what you desire, what you don’t consent to, what turns you on, what turns you off & what you might be open to sexually in the future; but not right now.

What We Work With:

• Somatic & verbal communication scripts for expressing & sharing sexual desires, limits & boundaries.
• Practicing saying “no” “not this way” “&not yet” without losing connection.
• Turning your inner erotic truth into clear relational agreements around sexual pacing, sexual acts, kink edges, aftercare & frequency).
• Consent as an ongoing nervous-system conversation, especially when trauma or triggers get activated.
  

How this Supports Secure Erotic Attachment:

Your “yes” becomes deeply trustworthy because your “no” is allowed to exist.  You can ask, negotiate & change your mind without abandoning yourself. 

This is where your inner work begins to reshape how you show up in love, sex, intimacy & relationships.

Healing Focus:

• Enhanced partner intimacy & amplified connection through mutual, safe pleasure.

What We Work With:

• Co-Regulation & Attunement, connection enhancing intimacy rituals: Breathwork techniques, eye contact & gazing, touch & micro-check-ins.

• Rupture & Repair Rituals after triggers, mis-attunement or shutdown without collapsing into shame or attack.

• Designing intimacy that supports  both nervous systems needs & both erotic blueprints: rather than facilitating one person’s fantasies, desires & sexual needs, with the other person sacrificing their sexual preferences, erotic desires & fantasies.. 

How this supports Secure Erotic Attachment:

Intimacy becomes a sacred, space where you can remain connected to yourself & another person simultaneously; 

which means confidence in showing up as you, in your skin; with no more need for performance, pleasing, sabotage or disappearing in order to maintain intimate or sexual connections. 

Radiate erotic confidence, presence & aliveness from the inside-out.

Through somatic pleasure building. energetic & Tantric practices, self-pleasure & partnered intimacy rituals, your capacity for pleasure, arousal & orgasm  expands as a natural byproduct of feeling safe, sovereign & authentically at home in your erotic body. 

Here you don’t just learn the method, 

You embody it.

Each Lab Includes. . .:

• Nourishing Self-Touch & Pleasure rituals
• Erotic Shadow-Work Integration Journalling Prompts
• Guided Erotic Body-Scans
• De-armouring rituals
• Tantric breathwork techniques 
• Somatic & Tantra-based pleasure enhancing self-touch rituals
• Somatic & Tantra-based Partner Pleasure enhancing rituals & intimacy solutions
• Erotic Movement Techniques 

Here we deepen the exploration around your primary healing & transformational goals.

Which might be focused on:

• Balancing sexual extremes of compulsive sexual behaviours or sexual avoidance.

• Understanding Attachment Dynamics in Sex & Intimacy & finding sexual & intimacy solutions that focus on secure erotic attachment.

• The Pleasure-Pain Threshold

• Navigating Conscious Kink

• Attunement & Grounding Rituals for erotic embodied presence

• Exploring your Erotic Shadow

Individually tailored according to your onboarding needs, healing & transformation goals, such as:

• Breaking the cycle from situationships, or unfulfilling hookups.

• Ending fantasy-based connections 

• Solutions for preventing bread-crumbing & navigating conversations for when you feel as though you’re getting bare minimum treatment.

• Identifying & communicating your authentic desires & sexual fantasies with your partner, 

• Guidance around communicating challenges around capacity for pleasure & difficulties with orgasm, so you stop faking it.

• Navigating trauma-triggers during dating, intimacy or sex.

• Expanding your sex life consciously, post-trauma.

The Core Curriculum is the same, but how we walk you through this journey is tailored through three healing-pathways,

We focus here on cultivating a safe mind-body connection.  By enhancing internal safety & self-connection first; pleasure no longer feels inaccessible too much or dangerous.

For you if:

• Sex or intimacy feels overwhelming, creates feelings of panic or anxiety, uncomfortable, painful or whether orgasm feels unreachable.
• Your body goes in to panic mode, you freeze up around sex & intimacy, feel disconnected from pleasure, zone-out, or whether sex is painful.

We emphasise: 

• Regulate & Remember Strands
• Trigger dissolving body-scans & grounding creative erotic visualisations 
• Gentle,  non-erotic orientsted somatic flows to recalibrate internal safety. 
• Nourishing, self-led pleasure rituals to encourage mind-body safety & enhance self-connection.

How to build arousal capacity through nervous system regulation. 

For You If:

• Your sexual experiences feel performative 
• You feel disconnected from pleasure 
• You feel as though you’re acting a role during sex

We emphasise:

• Remember, Regulate & Reveal Strands

• Erotic Identity Mapping & Erotic Attachment Dynamics 

• Creative Visualisation Techniques: Accessing desires, boundaries & new responses

• Pleasure Rituals: erotic guided-body scan, pleasure enhancing movement techniques & Tantra rituals to help you reconnect with erotic energy & pleasure at a pace that feels nourishing for you & according to your sexual preferences & erotic desires. 

Expand your erotic repertoire in a way that feels embodied, nourishing & emotionally attuned rather than chaotic, performative or compulsive.

For You If:

• Enhancing Sex & Intimacy consciously: You’re curious about exploring erotic, sexual shadow, fantasy, kink & Tantra rituals to deepen sex & intimacy. Without self-betrayal, people- pleasing or self-sacrifice.

• You want your eroric life to be spiritually nourishing 

• Shame, self-sabotage, compulsive sexual behaviour or repeating old patterns are restricting you from the intimacy, sex & relationships that authentically align with you.
  

We emphasise:

• Remember, Reclaim & Relate Strands

• Advanced Erotic Identity & Shadow Integration 

• Erotic, Somatic Movement that allows more sensuality, & energetic range through the body in a primal, devotional & embodied style that’s non-performative.

• Erotic Creative Visualisation Techniques that explore deeper desires & conscious kink that aligns with your sexual boundaries & reflects your personal values.