Healing & TRANSFORMATIONAL coaching

• Intermittent Reinforcement: hot-cold or push-pull cycles creating confusion.

• Left feeling confused around somebody Incessantly love-bombing you via constant validation, excessive interest & a promise of a future together, only to find that you’ve been devalued, discarded & in the process, emotionally starved.

• Left confused & unsure about where you stand in your relationship, due to mixed signals.  

• If mixed signals kept you hanging on & hoping for change

• Dominance & control disguised as devotion

• Blame shifting patterns: everything ultimately feels like your fault

• Do you find yourself minimising & dismissing your partner‘s behaviour with friends & family.

• Do you find yourself feeling numb around how you’re feeling emotionally or do you feel as though you struggle to name or identify thoughts & feelings?

• Have you ever been caught up in triangulation dynamics?

• Have you ever experienced jealousy induction? 

• Has your partner ever given you the silent treatment after being confronted?

• Have you ever felt a soulmate or twin flame connection?

• Have you ever experienced reputational sabotage or post-separation retaliation?
  

• Were you once able to speak up for yourself but somebody shut you down so you stopped self-advocating?

• Were your boundaries ignored or betrayed so you stopped setting them because they were once violated & disrespected?

• Perhaps voicing your needs, wants, & desires were never even understood by you in the first place, so they were never communicated.

• Do you find yourself questioning your judgement, your experiences or perception?

• Do you feel like your spark, energy or aliveness is lacklustre?

• Do you struggle with direction around life & love? 

Do you resonate with any of these roles?

• The Peacekeeper
• The Fixer
• The Over-Giver
• The Emotional Caretaker
• The one responsible for holding everything together 
• Are you a spiritual healer who believed that you can love someone into wholeness.

Have you ever questioned:

• Why do I feel such a connection with this person who I’ve just met?

• You detect relational red flags but ignore them & hope for change.

• Even when feeling confused about where you stand the relationship you can’t let go & hope for change.

• You feel addicted to a person’s presence or energy.

• If your person has a bad day, so do you.

• You miss someone who makes you feel uncertain about yourself.

If you find yourself re-meeting the same types of people:

• Emotionally unavailable partners

• Intensity, chemistry & connection is mistaken for sustainable intimacy & aligned relationships.

• Unauthentic people  whether its friends or romantic partners  who mirror you.  

• Perhaps you mirror others?

• Partners with similar childhood wounding experiences or trauma histories. 

• Relationships that feel spiritually destined & meant to be but ultimately emotionally destabilising.

• You attract energy vampires

• Perhaps you’ve been told that you drain people’s energy?

• You attract takers while you’re a giver

• You feel drawn to help, fix, save or rescue orhers, especially those with similar life experiences & childhood wounding.

• You do all the emotional labour 

If you’re looking for guidance & support to enhance relational wellbeing & secure attachment :

• Conscious intention 

• Mutual reciprocity

• Emotional fluency

• Emotional availability 

• Stability that feels nourishing & not boring 

• Clarity instead of mixed signals

• Erotic safety 

• Slow-burn intimacy grounded in reality 

• A partner with integrity & aligned values

This healing space is foe you if you’ve experienced relationships that eroded your sense of self. 

• Feeling lost in life

• Chronic self-doubt

• Fear or anxiety around decision making processes 

• “Maybe I’m the problem” thinking spirals 

• Sacrificing your needs by not speaking up when you’re feeling unsure, upset to avoid conflict.

• Feeling stuck in life, in love & with your career.

• Knowing that you deserve better but you’re not quite sure how to navigate it or you’re afraid of being alone.

• Feeling guilty around leaving a relationship.

• Feeling like you don’t matter, or that you’re not a priority..
  

Betrayal isn’t a reflection of your worth; it’s a reflection of their integrity.

For those of recovering from betrayal, infidelity & invisible relational wounds.

This healing space is for you if betrayal left you:

• Doubting your worth 

• Unable to trust yourself 

• Unable to trust others 

• Grieving a relationship that never truly existed

• Unable to reconcile the person they were with the person they became

• Stuck in self-blaming thinking loops: ‘How did I not see it‘.

• Shame around staying after being cheated on 

• Confusion around the contrast between the mis-alignment of words & actions not lining up.

You belong here if you experienced: 

• Emotional cheating 

• Secret online relationships 

• ”Friendships’ with ulterior motives & hidden intentions 

• Financial secrecy 

• Financial exploitation 

• Spiritual betrayal using spiritual, Tantra or religious narratives which preach destiny narratives or provoke feelings of guilt & shame in order to control behaviours.

• Triangulation 

• Jealousy induction & comparison

• Micro-cheating 

• Broken promises, future faking or soulmate grooming
  

Not many will be brave enough to enter this healing pathway; but for those who feel ready to change the trajectory of every relationship they ever touch; with yourself & others, then this offering is also available for those who recognise their own harmful patterns  themselves & others & want to break the cycle.

• You are selfish & self-absorbed: everything seems to revolve around your needs, wants & desires.

• You’ve ever mirrored others  because you admire them & they inspire you, to seduce others or gain approval & affection, through believing that shared commonality equals connection.

• If you’ve ever intentionally or unintentionally controlled others because authentic vulnerability feels unsafe.

• If you’ve ever intentionally used passive aggression, the silent treatment or stonewalled others as punishment, Instead of clearly communicating your feelings, needs & wants.  This is different to individuals on the autism spectrum or folk with PTSD or C-PTSD when shutdown & rupture responses occur.

• You belittle or criticise others in order to make yourself feel better about yourself.

• You often compare yourself to others & feel envious or jealousy.

• You punish others by guilt-tripping tactics or playing victim.

• You struggle with empathy

• You become defensive when confronted

• You flip blame even when you know that you’re in the wrong because feelings of shame are overwhelming.

• You care more about your social reputation than living authentically.

• You project your thoughts, experiences & emotions on to others.

• You don‘t intentionally want to hurt others but you’ve been told by those around you that your behaviours are harmful & impact negatively.